Wednesday, November 7, 2012

4 months of Marriage...

My little blog here was actually created to be more like that of a journal or diary. A place to record the things that John and I are up to, not only for us, but for our friends and families to view. If you are new, I should inform you that I am a born & raised Arkansan. I never planned on leaving that state simply because my family means more to me than anything.
Insert John...
As I was saying, my blog has changed a lot in the last 10 months. I've made many friends and have been presented with many cool opportunities. However, I think it's time for a post dedicated to The Sweetest Thing's originality.
I'm always asked "how's marriage?"
I decided that 4 months is long enough to know exactly "how" marriage is...
1. Marriage is living with your best friend.
 I like to refer to marriage as one big slumber party.
Most every evening, we cook dinner together with the 2000s R&B Pandora station playing loudly.
We RedBox movies. Bake cookies. Go out for walks. Dance. Watch YouTube videos. And just sit together chatting about our day and laughing.
2. Marriage is having a built-in Doctor/Caretaker. (no, really.)
Growing up, if I were sick, my mom would say, "oh I wish it were me in pain and not you." I never understood why she wanted my pain! But, I get it now. John doesn't get sick often, but when he does I wish it could be me instead. I hate seeing him feel badly.
On the other side of that, if I wake up in the middle of the night feeling badly, he gets up too. He gets medicine, water, etc. and talks with me until I fall back asleep. He's always serving others, something that made me fall in love with him in the first place.
3. Marriage is give & take.
No longer are the days that I watch whatever I want, eat whatever I want, spend money on whatever I want. Indeed, those days are great, but they came to a short end when we got married. Of course, its 100% worth it.
John & I have to compromise on a lot. I want to watch Pretty Little Liars, he wants to watch some silly, "important" game. I want to eat sushi, he wants pizza. You get the point.
4. Marriage is family.
I had a friend once tell me that you marry the person - not their family. But, the truth is you do marry their family, and it's a beautiful thing! Not only do we each have an extra set of parents, we have an extra set of siblings. And for John & me, our lives are more diversified - his family has a huge medical background and mine, education. We just need a good dentist in the family now!
John refers to my brother & sister's kids as "our" nieces & nephews. In fact, he refused to download Instagram - so I downloaded it while he wasn't looking. Now, everytime I see him staring at his phone he's stalking my sister & sister-in-law's Instagrams to see photos of the kids.
5. {our} Marriage is God-centered.
Before marriage, we did a study called Real Marriage by Mark Driscoll. I highly recommend the book to everyone - especially those who are single (yes, I said that. It will help you determine what is really important in finding a spouse.) We both love God more than we love one another, something that helps our love grow larger and larger every. single. day.
John is a very bright guy, I am always learning from him. I love studying the Bible with him because he sees stories/verses from the Bible in a whole different way than myself, thus I'm challenged and continuously learning.

6. Marriage is making life sweeter.
If you follow me on Instagram, you'll know that John leaves me a cheesy/sweet note each morning. He always has an inside joke or something really funny or really sweet in the note just to make me laugh or smile when I wake up
Likewise, John is a man with a sweet tooth like no other. If I bring a PB Twix home he's the happiest guy on the planet.
One thing I've learned about being married, is that we both are happier if we are making each other happier. Neither of us are too creative but we've both figured out ways to make each other smile!

7. Marriage is"work".
Many of my girlfriends in college wanted to get an M.R.S. degree. They wanted to meet the one and play wife. For some reason, I never wanted that... I had career goals that I had set my sights on. But, as I've learned... I plan my life and God laughs and does something way better than my plans! 
When John and I were only friends he told me, "I will not date until after medical school!"... HA! That worked out well for him;)!  When I decided to move off and "follow" John as he ventured through his medical school journey - I knew I was putting my career goals on hold.
Marriage is work... life dreams are put on hold/changed. Laundry has to be done...but for two. Dinner for two must be cooked... and cannot be too healthy or someone won't touch it. The list could go on...
As for John, I know his patience has grown even more than ever after the last four months of WAITING on me... he hates being late. I'm always late. You see the pattern?
It's not all butterflies and hearts - but goodness, it's not far from it considering we don't mind the "work" that is involved. 

I will end on 7 since the number holds so much significance.

And for humor's sake... let me share with you a note left by John this morning. As I said on Instagram... spelling is not his strong suit!


  1. I absolutely loved reading this post and agree with everything you said. The two of you are the absolute cutuest together. Cheers to many more months of love, learning and happiness together!


  2. So sweet girl! I totally agree with everything you said! Marriage teaches you SO much and has been the greatest tool the Lord has used to sanctify me and make me look more like Him!!! SUCH a blessing!

  3. Such great words! Y'all are so cute! I've written a very similar post before!

    Happy 4 months!

  4. I love this post and your blog! Marriage is all of this and more! I love that you put the tad bit in about god. Totally agree if you find a man who truly loves jesus he will also truly love you!

  5. Bahhh ya'll are too cute for words!! I love how much you two love each other and care for each other! Find me one just like him ;) Any med school friends?! Haha!

  6. So precious & I agree with every word! So so sweet!!

  7. Very sweet post. So insightful for someone who has been married for 4 months. Marriage is so many things and most of it is wonderful but even with the not so wonderful parts it's always 100% worth it.

  8. Great post! I'm glad that you guys are enjoying your married life together. Blessings!

  9. sooo sweet!! happy 4 months sweet girl!

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