(I made John get in on a selfie last week bc it was National Doctor’s Day!)
I can’t believe this is my last bump date! Woohoo! Spring is here and Baby Gemma’s debut is right around the corner. John and I could not be more excited about this precious baby – we just talk about him non-stop! You guys know we have Fitz on a pedestal so we constantly talk about what Fitz is going to do with Baby Gemma. Will he be protective? Will he be jealous? LOL. So funny. And every night we talk about what this baby will be like – will he be like John or me [please Lord let him be like John!!]. John and I were both great babies and kids, I was the dry, serious, but funny type of child and John was just sweet and low maintenance. The world needs more (kind people) like John so I’m just praying he will be like John. 🙂
Anyway, I’m breaking this up into categories since I have a LOT to cover and don’t really know where to begin..
HOW AM I FEELING:
If you’ve read my other two bumpdates, you may know I’m hesitant to be super ‘real’ about how I am actually feeling for a couple of reasons. Basically, I don’t want anything to be confused as a complaint. I consider myself so fortunate and blessed to be able to experience pregnancy. However, I will say that I also love when people are honest and real about pregnancy. I have not had an ‘easy’ pregnancy per se, and I naturally compare myself to my friends- and almost all of them have had or are having only the basic pregnancy symptoms like nausea in the beginning or a few aches and pains here and there. Anyway, there were times where I was nervous to admit how sick I was or how much pain I am in because I know that not many can relate (two of my girlfriends have been a saving grace!). Luckily, as we go to each doctor’s appt. a lot of it has started making sense, which I will explain now. SO, you may remember Bumpdate #2, I was throwing up 5/7 days a week… that went on for about 3 months. I was having very severe heartburn – to the point of tears daily. I’ve always had acid reflux but this didn’t even compare! The heartburn caused me to throw up quite a bit just bc of the acid building up. It was horrific! Luckily, John finally put it all together and realized I have GERD and tried out some medicines on me and one worked phenomenally. [Because I get asked a lot: I don’t share any of medications bc I don’t want to put anyone at risk – if you have this issue, definitely ask your Doctor! My Dr. gave us the thumbs up on the medication that worked!] Soooooo, the medication worked well and I had some relief for about 4-5 weeks. It was the only time during my pregnancy that I felt normal, aside from fatigue/typical symptoms. Unfortunately, once the baby started getting really big, the heartburn got worse again. It was as if the medicine couldn’t compete with the baby’s size, lol! I wake up at least 2x per night sick at my stomach/chest because the medication has worn off. Luckily, I can chew a Tums and get temporary relief so that I can fall back asleep for a couple of hours. Also, now that I am nearing the end of the pregnancy and the baby is huge, I am throwing up again because of the acid building up. It isn’t fun but I know that is just a sign that it’s almost over so I don’t mind it!
Also, the baby has been measuring anywhere between 2-4 weeks ahead based on his size. 😮 Honestly, I kept thinking that maybe he would slow down in growth as we neared birth, but so far he hasn’t. Each appointment we leave in shock when we are told his estimated weight. However, it makes a lot of sense because I have lots of rib, back, and pelvic issues. The rib issues are probably the worst. My entire rib cage at this point is completely numb, in fact I can touch my skin and not even feel it. I can’t sit on bleachers or on a wooden/hard chair for more than a few minutes. Just riding in the car for 5-6 miles is bad. I have to do lots of standing and walking to get some relief. Right now as I am blogging this- I have to stand up and walk in between each paragraph I type. This started around week 28 and progressively got worse. I mentioned it to my friend who had a 9.5lb baby and she explained that it is normal for the pain to be excessive when the baby is so large.
There are a few other things going on but I don’t know if they are worth mentioning because they aren’t as rare, but I will say restless leg is NO joke!! I even have it in my right arm. If I get tired in the least my legs start jerking around randomly. I feel for the women who have to deal with that the entire pregnancy. It is really annoying! Poor John is always getting kicked at night! But that’s the least of my issues right now.
Overall, feeling-wise, I am lucky that I have a demanding job because it keeps me so busy that I don’t get a lot of time to think about it or dwell on it. I literally schedule each day of the week so that I have SO much to do that I don’t get the chance to sit down and let any of this bug me. That’s my one piece of advice if you are super sick or having issues – just try to stay really busy and power through it. It also makes time go by much more quickly. Also, another piece of advise: baths! Oh-my-goodness! I take one EVERY single night. No matter what. Usually around 5pm, my rib pain will be at its worst and I just force myself to finish up my work so I can take a bath! Baths are like my reward for a long day! They take all of the pressure off your body and give me complete relief.
HOW IS BABY DOING?!
As I mentioned before, this baby is measuring way ahead based on estimates. At around the 20wk mark an US tech said “I don’t think your due date is right, this is a big baby!” and then each appointment after that he continued to shock everyone with his weight estimates. It wasn’t until around 30wks that I started believing the estimates more because my body was feeling all of his weight. 😮 John and I make a bet before each appointment and it is really funny because I always win! At one of the last appts. the baby was supposed to be around 4-4.5lbs. So John bet that he weighed 5lbs or less and I bet he weighed more than 5lbs. He was almost 6lbs! The PA knew about our bet and giggled – she was like “Mom is right on this one!”. Our doctor usually does the US but I love his PA so she comes in too. She is really sweet and takes a ton of 4D pix for us to have!
Other than that, everything looks great thus far. Baby Gemma is a chunky little thing with big cheeks which crack me up! According to his US pix, he has my nose, plumpy lips, and a little bit of hair. I’m guessing he will resemble John based on the hair part. When my mom was delivering me, her doctor’s first words were “we gotta get this baby to the barber shop!” because I had a head full of thick, black hair! So I am thinking this babe doesn’t have my hair gene – unless it grows in soon! He moves a TON. I’m talking anytime I sit down, he starts jumping around and moving! He’s primarily on the right side of my body so I constantly feel his feet and legs and arms moving and I can see them sticking out, right under my rib cage. Everyone says it is painful and no fun when they move and kick your ribs at the end, but I personally love it! It doesn’t really hurt me at all, but that could be because I’m used to the other stuff I mentioned. Sometimes I catch myself smiling or laughing at him already – just wondering what he is doing in there! I can’t wait to hold him!
Last night not least, I have received a lot of ?s and comments about the fibroids I mentioned on Snapchat. If you aren’t aware, fibroids are benign tumors. My doctor saw them at my 8wk appt. He literally brushed it off like it was nothing, and so did John. It wasn’t until my 20wk appointment that I started getting nervous because one of the tumors had already grown to be 2” around! There are a few of them – and they grow with hormones. Right now, they are fairly big. The one that you can see and feel from the outside is about 2-2.5” and looks large from the outside. I’m sure the others are way larger by now if they were 2” a few months back. They haven’t really been painful until the past 2 weeks. I think the combo of the baby being potentially large AND the multiple fibroids being a good size are just starting to take a toll comfort wise. My PA told me that some women have 6” round ones and that makes them absolutely miserable. BUT, the great news is that they aren’t harming the baby or making him uncomfortable. I kept feeling so guilty – like that poor baby has to share a room with big, hard tumors! But everyone says it probably isn’t hurting him – it is like he has a twin!
PLANS FOR BABY
John has 3 more months left of residency! Woohoo! He will finish residency, study for boards, then start his job. It will be a whirlwind spring and summer for us. Residency has what I call ‘good’ and ‘bad’ rotations… as an intern they are all bad! Intern year was tough- hence why we waited until the end of residency to have children. Anyway, John had two bad rotations left – one was ICU which he finished last month. Now he is on another ‘bad’ rotation. By bad, I just mean it is 6 days a week and he leaves the house at 530am and gets home around 7pm. When he comes home, he is usually mentally and physically exhausted which is understandable. It just means we have to manage our time really well and I’ve learned to be very, very independent. I did the nursery on my own – with exception of him hanging a couple of things. I joke with him because he has NO idea what is even up there or what anything is for!! I have a feeling there will be a large learning curve for John when the baby arrives. Obviously it will be a lot of learning for us both, but he really hasn’t had a chance to even know where I’ve stored diapers or what different items or clothing are for, lol! Oh well!
Any who, he doesn’t get any leave from work when the baby arrives – that is just residency for ya, though. Luckily, he has only ever used 1 sick day over the last 3 years so I think he may use a couple of them if he can or if he needs to. He and I are both crazy people who don’t like skipping work! Like I said, I am very independent and prefer to do things alone or on my own so I’m mentally prepared. My mom has been really sweet and saved all of her sick days for us (she and my dad live 2.5 hours away). I am sure I will be grateful to have her around when I am sleep deprived and could use a nap. We aren’t making a lot of plans really, just playing it by ear and lots of praying that delivery goes smoothly and baby is healthy. 🙂
His nursery is almost complete! We have to have a curtains and a couple of other things. But he has many of his necessities already. It’s been fun working with all the different baby brands and PR companies – he has everything! I washed all of his swaddles last week and realized we don’t have storage for them all so I have been giving them to my friends who are expecting. (Sidenote: we LOVE the cute prints on THESE swaddles– the are our favorite, so far!)
So far we have 3 strollers and we love love love all three of them! The first one was THIS carseat and THIS stroller. I purchased it the minute it was available online, before I even knew the gender! I loved the tan leather detailing and the white. I’d heard great things about Maxi Cosi carseats and John loves the Quinny strollers! (PS. The RZ/MC team saw that we got this stroller on Snapchat and sent this adorable matching diaper bag!) Each stroller has its pros and cons, however. Like,the stroller I linked doesn’t have a lot of storage so when Nuna e-mailed to see if we were interested in stroller we were all for it and we’d heard great things ab the brand. We got THIS carseat and THIS stroller from Nuna and absolutely LOVE it. It is a smooth, sturdy ride w/room for storage and I love the magnets on the carseat. Also, just yesterday we got THIS stroller from Stokke (also a smooth, sturdy ride!) w/THIS bassinet. John laughs at me because I constantly change my mind about which one I like best and I haven’t even had the baby!! I really love the Stokke though – and he says I only like it because of it’s distinct look! It is very sharp and modern looking. However, it feels so good and smooth to push around and is very practical.
His nursery is upstairs so I don’t think we will be using it much for the first few months. Halo was kind enough to send over one of their ‘Bassinest’ bedside swivel sleepers. And boy! It is nice! It has lights built in, does vibrations and other movements, plays mothers heartbeat/white noise/rain, and it has a nursing timer. I love how easy it is to use! We already have it sitting right next to the bed. It literally just swivels from the side to side which should make it easy to nursing during the night. I will say this – it is huge! I had heard it was big and it wasn’t until I put it in our room that I realized how big the base is on it, but I think it will be worth it. When we purchased our home one year ago, we knew we wanted a master bedroom that was large and had extra room for baby ‘stuff’ so it isn’t too bad considering we prepared to be sharing our room with a babe! They also sent over their popular Swaddles – which I am sure we will be need desperately!
We also got him a Dock-A-Tot! I ordered it a while back because for quite some time they were on backorder. I got the all white one – but I love the other prints that are available now. A couple of years ago, a girl I follow on IG had a baby (she’s not a blogger or anything – I just loved her baby!!) and she always posted photos of the baby in the Dock-A-Tot. Since then, they have become so popular and a lot of my blogger friends swear by them!
Oh! I love love love the smell of THIS baby wash and shampoo!!! Dying over it! I was checking out at Dillard’s w/Jordan (grabbing some sweet baby clothes) and I put some on my hands and it made me SO excited to finally have him in my arms. I love the smell of babies with lotion on AND dog breath, haha. Two of my favorite scents! Also, I’ve had a few PR companies send out different brands of bottles – so I will be trying those out and letting you know what we like best / what works for us. However, my friend Katey recommended THESE so we registered for them. Speaking of, Katey got him THIS Burberry footie (and I love Burberry on baby boys) and I am obsessed! I’ve already washed it and steamed it and have it ready for him to wear. I’m Burberry obsessed when it comes to kids clothing – my sister made me this way. She used to find Burberry consigned or marked way down for her son and he always looked SO adorable. She told me she’s never regretted it. (People are quick to tell you all you need are onsies bc the baby grows too fast and she was quick to tell me that’s silly and I can dress him however I want!) My good friend Jean (I call her Extra Petite) surprised us with this cute jacket last week and I about died! I’ve been told that the jackets are great for boy or girl and you can just pass them down and get lots of wear out of them. He will have to wear that to Boston in the winter to visit Jean!
I could go on for days with all of the products we registered for or received, but I think I’m going to wait until after baby to share what we really love and use a lot. I will FOR SURE do a stroller review – that’s been one of the most requested posts.
BLOGGING / FASHION / PREGNANCY
I get asked a lot if being pregnant has changed my blog or if it will change my blog and so far it hasn’t so much, aside from posts like this. Now, I will say it is REALLY hard to be big and pregnant and write a fashion blog because only 1/10 things I order online fit me. I feel a little guilty because I know I probably bore some people since all I wear are oversized tops, but I am hopeful to go back to normal after I lose the baby weight. Also, I have very little energy so my posting schedule is way off but I still try to have my regular 5 posts a week. I’m so thankful for each of you who have been patient with me, spelling errors, late posting, splotchy spray tan feet, and all. :p It means a lot to me and reveals so much about your character and how kind you are.. Between blogging full time, running my social media, migrating to WordPress (this new blog layout which took months to do and is not done yet), renovating our master bathroom, single handedly doing the nursery, I have had a lot on my hands and I am so grateful for those of you who have been understanding and supportive (and shown me grace!). You’d be surprised how cruel/critical the internet can be!
For those of you who are expecting I link ALL of my outfits in each blog post and indicate if its is maternity or not and how it runs size wise. I don’t wear much maternity AT ALL. I mentioned before that maternity clothing is not my favorite. I think it is really hard to find cute maternity clothing and the things I do love tend to be pricy. I try to shop smart and buy things I would have purchased and worn BEFORE and simply size up to fit over my stomach. That way you guys are able to re-create the looks as well. A friend of mine gave me a piece of advise at like 26 weeks, she said “keep wearing jeans – if you wear leggings you will let yourself go!”. I kind of laughed at it at first but I get what she was saying now – it is what John says about scrubs! Scrubs are comfy and big and adjustable so its easy to gain weight if you are wearing them – you never realize you are gaining weight! But that is harder to do if you are wearing jeans – it kind of keeps you in check. I try to follow her rule… it is hard though bc jeans can be so uncomfortable while pregnant. I have people ask me daily “how are you not wearing maternity jeans” or “how are you still wearing heels” and both of those are my attempt not to get too lazy, haha! I do wear sweatpants and house-shoes a LOT!
Okay, wow this is LONG. If you have any questions – just leave them in the comments and I can try to update this as the day goes on!! <3
*Edited to answer a question: Will we be private or share the baby? I have NO idea. I’ve heard horror stories of course but I also feel like so many of you are family and close friends now that I hate to not share him! I think it will be something we decide once he is here and we have peace about it!*